Many of you will remember that Ava is the youngest daughter of Joy and John. She is also currently our youngest grand daughter at just over fourteen months.
She's been content for her older brother and sister to carry her around; so walking didn't seem especially necessary. Until now. With two new "babies" in the mix, Ava has definitely stepped up her game. Talking and walking have become priorities.
She is such a bright little girl and flashes the trademark Schreck Smile on the regular. No one can resist her charm. She also showed off her teaching skills this week.
Everyone came to our house for family dinner Monday and it immediately got LOUD, as usual. With eight adults and eight children ranging in age from 7 years to 6 weeks, our family just naturally makes noise. A lot of noise! Cody (who grew up as an only child and married Kristin) is still adapting.
Ava demonstrated her new talent of walking with unsteady steps for several different adults. If anyone lost interest too quickly, she would grab the couch or coffee table, steady herself, throw up pudgy hands and cheer, "TaDa!" I couldn't help smiling each time I saw the routine repeated.
Eventually, the older cousins all moved to the kitchen. They were laughing and having fun. I caught sight of Ava just as she started moving toward them. Arms in the air as a counter balance. Monumental effort. One uncertain step. Now another. Her eyes fixed on the group of older children which was her chosen destination.
Suddenly, Ava just stopped. Then she dropped to all fours and took off crawling toward the kitchen at warp speed.
It was apparent that the new mode of transportation (walking) just wasn't moving her quickly enough. She reverted to what was more familiar (crawling.) I laughed at first, then realized she had just reminded me of a valuable lesson.
We all prefer to stick with what we know best.
Trying new things takes a lot of effort; courage even. Sometimes, the new thing doesn't develop as easily or as quickly as we had expected. At that moment, it just seems to make more sense for us to go back to what has always been familiar. Ditch the new. It's just too hard.
But practice is necessary in any new venture. If we hope to improve, we must practice. We must risk failure on our way to success.
Ava falls on her bottom routinely. She is definitely restricted by trying to walk. And don't forget, new is scarey! But everyone around her continues to cheer each faltering step she attempts because we know how wonderful walking will be when she finally masters it.
Ava's lesson was the final push I needed to try something new myself.
Some friends (and my family) had been urging me to try Facebook live. People get on there all the time for a variety of reasons. Some sell, some rant, some tell funny stories. It costs nothing and provides instant access to everyone on your friend list. (And beyond if others share.)
So, with the story of Ava (and it's implications) duly noted, I determined to give it a try. You would have laughed out loud if you had seen how nervous I was. I must have left my office four times while trying to work up my nerve. Meagan had to give me a tutorial on how to "Go Live" then turn it back off. (I promptly forgot that part and everyone got a good look up my nose while i searched for the "end" button.)
But I Did It! I took my first stumbling steps toward a live post.
I tried. It certainly wasn't perfect. I forgot several of the things I wanted to say. I looked at the wrong spot the entire time. I couldn't stop to acknowledge people saying Hello because I was so fearful of losing my train of thought. But I told Ava's lesson on Facebook live.
The great part is that several people commented saying it really spoke to them. Exactly what I'd hoped for most. One friend wrote a private message expressing her thoughts and cheering with me for the brave new step. Hearing from her made all my nerves worth it.
Many of you reading this have something new YOU should be stepping out to try. But fear of the unknown has kept you from moving forward. Try anyway! You have something to share that will encourage others. Make the effort. So what if it's not perfect. You very well may succeed and surprise yourself.
I promise that if you need encouragement, I'll be here to cheer with you, 'TA DA!!"
We would love to hear about the brave new thing you want to begin in the comment section. Or perhaps you would share your favorite "learning to walk" story from children or grands.
Friday, August 31, 2018
Monday, August 27, 2018
It's All in the Deciding
If you need a little encouragement and hope, today's post is specifically written with you in mind.
A precious bit of truth hit me in a fresh way while sitting on my porch this morning. Part of the sky was already beginning to indicate the rich, pure tones of sunrise. Clouds to the west were still dark, poorly defined and mysterious. But when I looked east, there was one billowy column that almost glowed with its stark whiteness.
I hadn't moved from my chair. Both cloud groupings were visible at the same time. To the west, only shadowy blackness. Looking to the east, morning had already burst onto the scene. Color bounced off the cloud to my right. Brilliant pinks and purples began flooding the sky behind the single white cloud.
A quick glance to the left confirmed that light had not yet reached that part of the heavens. But because I'm now 60 years old I've experienced approximately 21,900 new days. (Yes! I certainly DID use my calculator to find out that information.) After all those new day dawning experiences, I sat in my little chair knowing a few things were certain:
A precious bit of truth hit me in a fresh way while sitting on my porch this morning. Part of the sky was already beginning to indicate the rich, pure tones of sunrise. Clouds to the west were still dark, poorly defined and mysterious. But when I looked east, there was one billowy column that almost glowed with its stark whiteness.
I hadn't moved from my chair. Both cloud groupings were visible at the same time. To the west, only shadowy blackness. Looking to the east, morning had already burst onto the scene. Color bounced off the cloud to my right. Brilliant pinks and purples began flooding the sky behind the single white cloud.
A quick glance to the left confirmed that light had not yet reached that part of the heavens. But because I'm now 60 years old I've experienced approximately 21,900 new days. (Yes! I certainly DID use my calculator to find out that information.) After all those new day dawning experiences, I sat in my little chair knowing a few things were certain:
- Given time, the sun WOULD shine on the clouds in the west, too. If I had decided about my day based on how the western clouds looked at that moment I would have expected a dark, stormy day indeed. But my assessment would have been wrong.
- The magnificent colors painting the east last only a short time. They must be experienced, appreciated and committed to memory quickly because (like many things in life) they are only available for a moment.
- Even if this day DIDN'T dawn nicely, another would be on the horizon in just 24-hours. Consistency is the hallmark of God's creation. Deciding my focus was left completely up to me.
I sat and prayed for so many friends who are walking through places of uncertainty and difficulty. That's when I realized there was a message of hope being written for us in the very atmosphere.
1. No matter how bleak the situation may look right now, JOY will come in due time. The inky cloud formations in the west gave no indication that light would impact them. Your situation may appear the same, right now. You find yourself wondering, "Will this ever change?" "Is there any possibility that hope can be renewed?" My cry to you is, "YES!"
Give the God of this universe time to work on your behalf. Difficulty is a part of every life. Struggle and disappointment come to us all. But scripture promises He knows what we need even before we call to Him. God hasn't moved from His throne, He sees more than just this moment in your life. Ask God to shape your perspective based on HIS vantage point. Decide to trust Him.
2. Life moves very quickly. (Was it Mark Twain who joked that life is like a roll of toilet tissue? The closer you get to the end, the faster it goes! I know. I'm shocked too that I took that rabbit trail. But humor is good medicine. LOL) We're all given brilliant moments of hope and joy. They tend to splash onto the scene then dissipate rather quickly.
We must value, appreciate and commit them to memory. Those memories provide the encouraging warmth we need on days when life is harsh, cold or uncertain. Hope is available. Decide to watch for it.
3. God has never been late in answering my prayers but seldom, if ever, has He been early! It's a lesson of consistency I've gleaned over these 21,900 days of living. I love the truth I see repeated in scripture, God Listens. He hears the cries of His people.
Here's my question for you....are you talking to HIM about your situation? Is He the confidant you're running to or are you relying most heavily on the wisdom of friends? Dear Reader, even the closest friend lacks the vantage point God has - He sees the beginning and the end. Only He can whisper the most accurate advice. He alone has a plan that will weave even the difficulties into a fabulous Life Tapestry, if you allow it. Decide to take your struggles to God.
Most of my friends find my fascination with sunrises and sunsets to be a bit odd. That's okay. When one of my grand babies catches sight of a sunset and calls out, "Look, Noni! God has painted the sky to tell us good-night and He loves us!" I don't mind being odd.
So I've come alongside today to offer a hug and to challenge you, take courage. Decide to trust God's faithfulness. Decide to watch for the whispers of hope sent your way. Decide to talk with Him about your struggle.
Because life really is all in the deciding!
How about you? Do you enjoy lovely sunrises/sunsets in your part of the world? What is your favorite reminder in nature of God's faithfulness?
How about you? Do you enjoy lovely sunrises/sunsets in your part of the world? What is your favorite reminder in nature of God's faithfulness?
Monday, August 13, 2018
Make Your Bed
It's the simple things, done consistently, that make life Grand!
This is so true. We all intuitively want to be part of something bigger than ourselves. We want to have maximum impact in our sphere of influence. We want to make a difference.
But few understand that life is the sum total of thousands of small choices made consistently every single day. That's why this post is titled, "Make Your Bed!"
Frank and I read excerpts from a book written by a military leader years ago. One of his simplest instructions had great impact on his cadets and made perfect sense to us.
He urged his cadets to ALWAYS make their bed first thing each morning. He said this simple act would reap great benefits:
This is so true. We all intuitively want to be part of something bigger than ourselves. We want to have maximum impact in our sphere of influence. We want to make a difference.
But few understand that life is the sum total of thousands of small choices made consistently every single day. That's why this post is titled, "Make Your Bed!"
Frank and I read excerpts from a book written by a military leader years ago. One of his simplest instructions had great impact on his cadets and made perfect sense to us.
He urged his cadets to ALWAYS make their bed first thing each morning. He said this simple act would reap great benefits:
- A sense of accomplishment to start off the day.
- A knowledge that good habits have purpose.
- An act of self-discipline which would set the tone for each day.
- A reminder that consistence makes a difference.
- A gift at the end of each day. (No matter how difficult/chaotic the day had been, the cadets finished that day with a sense of order if they returned to a bed that was made.)
Good advice, don't you think?
I marvel at people who don't understand the power of consistency. Maybe this idea was planted deep inside me by the caverns we visited when I was just a child. My first year at summer camp included a trip to the Florida Caverns State Park.
Our group stepped out of the glaring sunlight and near 100 degree weather into a cool, shadowy wonderland. A short walk down the gravel path found us in an underground cathedral created by stalactites and stalagmites. Magnificent pillars of stone rose from the cavern floor to meet their twin which grew from the ceiling.
I was awe-struck.
The guide patiently answered the thousand or so questions asked by our elementary-aged group. And at some point I was able to grasp the information about how these monstrous columns had formed.
"Actually," said the park ranger. "these are still growing. They are formed as single drops of mineral rich water drip from the ceiling. They grow one little drop at a time." [I would encourage you to visit the website and see the incredible pictures.]
As a seven year old kid, I stood looking up at the majestic pillars. I touched their cool sides and saw how impossible it would be to put my arms around even one of them, they were so huge. Such magnificence created one single drop at a time! The power of consistency became a seed firmly planted in my mind.
These monsters serve no real purpose. They support nothing and are strictly ornamental. But oh, the lesson they teach!
Another use for the word "pillar" refers to someone who is reliable. As in, "She is a true pillar of the community." That character trait is built and becomes visible one small drop of action at a time. (Just like the stalactites and stalagmites)
We all want to be people of influence. That desire to impact others is built into our DNA. But the truth is, influence is earned. Over time. By small, consistent acts which show an individual to be trust-worthy.
One little word of encouragement here. A simple act of kindness there. A confidence kept. A hurt forgiven. A promise remembered. Consistent dependability.
These are the things that add value and build rich stabilizing character in us. Over time, they create a heart people know they can trust. You become like a well......known to always have a cool, refreshing drink for each weary passer-by.
People discover they can come to you for advice You are consistent. Their words won't be shared with anyone else. You've developed a reputation for reliability one small disciplined loving action at a time.
Please understand the opposite is equally true. Watch the person who continues to be unreliable. The one who complains. The one who tears down instead of building up. This person will also become known for their character.
Proverbs 20:11 reads this way in the KJV. "Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right."
Our world is desperate for people of reliable character to step forward and use their influence for good. Will you accept the challenge? Will you nurture the tiny seeds which grow consistent encouragement? Will you be the reliable person always adding value?
Make your bed, friend!
That and a hundred other small actions will produce for you a massive harvest of influence you could never wrap your arms around, even if you tried.
Do you have a daily routine that has become a good/productive habit? Have you observed consistency playing out in the life of someone you know; one small action at a time? Leave us a comment and tell how these have impacted you.....
Our group stepped out of the glaring sunlight and near 100 degree weather into a cool, shadowy wonderland. A short walk down the gravel path found us in an underground cathedral created by stalactites and stalagmites. Magnificent pillars of stone rose from the cavern floor to meet their twin which grew from the ceiling.
I was awe-struck.
The guide patiently answered the thousand or so questions asked by our elementary-aged group. And at some point I was able to grasp the information about how these monstrous columns had formed.
"Actually," said the park ranger. "these are still growing. They are formed as single drops of mineral rich water drip from the ceiling. They grow one little drop at a time." [I would encourage you to visit the website and see the incredible pictures.]
As a seven year old kid, I stood looking up at the majestic pillars. I touched their cool sides and saw how impossible it would be to put my arms around even one of them, they were so huge. Such magnificence created one single drop at a time! The power of consistency became a seed firmly planted in my mind.
These monsters serve no real purpose. They support nothing and are strictly ornamental. But oh, the lesson they teach!
Another use for the word "pillar" refers to someone who is reliable. As in, "She is a true pillar of the community." That character trait is built and becomes visible one small drop of action at a time. (Just like the stalactites and stalagmites)
We all want to be people of influence. That desire to impact others is built into our DNA. But the truth is, influence is earned. Over time. By small, consistent acts which show an individual to be trust-worthy.
One little word of encouragement here. A simple act of kindness there. A confidence kept. A hurt forgiven. A promise remembered. Consistent dependability.
These are the things that add value and build rich stabilizing character in us. Over time, they create a heart people know they can trust. You become like a well......known to always have a cool, refreshing drink for each weary passer-by.
People discover they can come to you for advice You are consistent. Their words won't be shared with anyone else. You've developed a reputation for reliability one small disciplined loving action at a time.
Please understand the opposite is equally true. Watch the person who continues to be unreliable. The one who complains. The one who tears down instead of building up. This person will also become known for their character.
Proverbs 20:11 reads this way in the KJV. "Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right."
Our world is desperate for people of reliable character to step forward and use their influence for good. Will you accept the challenge? Will you nurture the tiny seeds which grow consistent encouragement? Will you be the reliable person always adding value?
Make your bed, friend!
That and a hundred other small actions will produce for you a massive harvest of influence you could never wrap your arms around, even if you tried.
Do you have a daily routine that has become a good/productive habit? Have you observed consistency playing out in the life of someone you know; one small action at a time? Leave us a comment and tell how these have impacted you.....
Friday, August 10, 2018
Visiting China
In addition to all that happened around these parts in July, I also visited China for three weeks.
"Wait! Did I miss something?" I can hear your gasp and I see the puzzled expression on your face.
If you've followed Embrace the Grace for very long, you know I love to travel. But you also know that the planning and anticipating are half the fun for me. You've heard NOTHING about me visiting China before now.
Well, as with most stories, there is one small puzzle piece missing. I actually visited China by way of a lovely teacher from Shanghai who lived with us for three weeks.
Ah, now you understand.
Her name is Barbara and she came to live with us through an organization called Education First. This language learning program (based in Switzerland) facilitates world travel for students wanting to experience different cultures.
My friend became involved with EF at the beginning of this year and asked if we would consider hosting a child for three weeks. "It would be a wonderful opportunity to impact their life. Besides, you have so much travel experience." she said.
I knew the answer to her question before I even consulted Frank. July, 2018 was going to be packed for us with one new grandbaby and another on the way. Not to mention, Vacation Bible School and a missions group of 20 young people coming to our church to help with outreach.
"Thanks but No, Thanks!" I figured this was a cultural experience someone else might want to enjoy. No sense keeping all the fun to myself, right?
But then my friend came back with a request for us to host a course leader.
So it was decided.
At the very last minute, the young lady we were to host became ill and couldn't travel. The organization tapped "Barbara" to take her place. The program was new to her. She only had four days to prepare. And she had never met the seventeen children that would be her charges for this trip halfway around the world.
But she had a passport and visa from a previous trip. And (we came to learn) Barbara is fearless!
Not gonna lie, we were all three a bit nervous at first. But we warmed up to one another quickly. Fortunately, Barbara speaks English well. And Frank's visit to China almost 30 years ago, gave us much to talk about. By the end of the first weekend, I knew Barbara and I would be friends.
She was unfamiliar with our faith and had never attended a church nor read a Bible. But being the fearless person she is and wanting to be gracious, she came right along with us.....to everything. She even accepted the invitation to join Frank and me for evening devotions and prayer.
We never pushed. We didn't have to. Christ makes room for Himself in every searching heart. We simply lived our normal lives. Invited her to join us when she wanted and made time for her to ask questions about it all.
The grand babies loved her immediately and she them. Madi summed up the situation first (hand on hip), "Noni, is Ms. Barbawah you new verwy bestest fwiend?" We all looked at one another with big eyes while stifling laughter, "Why yes, Madi. Ms. Barbawah is my new friend!"
Responsibilities kept Barbara occupied each day from 7:30AM until 5:30PM. After our dinner, she spent long hours on the phone with the parents in China, responding to questions from the students, or facilitating understanding for the host families. I marveled at her adeptness.
Because I was the transportation for Barbara, I spent the most time with her. We did indeed become friends and talked easily about so many different things. Culture. Weddings. Faith. Children. Shopping. Family. Food.
One of my favorite lines came when several host families gathered for a picnic. One of the "dads" was talking with Barbara. He learned that her parents are owners of a family restaurant they have managed for decades.
"What type of food do they serve?" he leaned in to be sure to catch her response.
Barbara hesitated for a split second then answered, "Chinese."
Everyone at their table burst out laughing! Can't make up those kind of cultural exchanges.
The richest memory I'll rehearse from our "visit to China" was when we all tried to say good-bye. Barbara and I both wept openly. Frank had to swipe at tears and wait for his voice to get stable. We hugged one another multiple times while whispering our farewells.
How is it that your heart can become so entangled with other people in such a short amount of time? Why even make the effort to connect with someone you may never see again? I guess the answer is this: you have to be open and you have to believe Every Connection Matters.
Many people live with closed hearts. They don't want to risk being hurt or misunderstood or offended or rejected. But my friend, the line from our childhood is still true..... Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Yes, it was awkward inviting a stranger to live with us for almost three weeks. Yes, there were odd moments when we didn't understand one another. Yes, it required time and energy during a month when both were in precious little supply.
But I'm so glad we chose to be open to this experience.
I will long remember Barbara's beautiful face, covered with tears as she leaned in one final time and whispered, "Thank you. I will remember you always."
Our trip to China was wonderful!
How about you? What was your favorite travel experience this summer? Take a moment to leave a comment and let's see where all we've been.
"Wait! Did I miss something?" I can hear your gasp and I see the puzzled expression on your face.
If you've followed Embrace the Grace for very long, you know I love to travel. But you also know that the planning and anticipating are half the fun for me. You've heard NOTHING about me visiting China before now.
Well, as with most stories, there is one small puzzle piece missing. I actually visited China by way of a lovely teacher from Shanghai who lived with us for three weeks.
Ah, now you understand.
Her name is Barbara and she came to live with us through an organization called Education First. This language learning program (based in Switzerland) facilitates world travel for students wanting to experience different cultures.
My friend became involved with EF at the beginning of this year and asked if we would consider hosting a child for three weeks. "It would be a wonderful opportunity to impact their life. Besides, you have so much travel experience." she said.
I knew the answer to her question before I even consulted Frank. July, 2018 was going to be packed for us with one new grandbaby and another on the way. Not to mention, Vacation Bible School and a missions group of 20 young people coming to our church to help with outreach.
"Thanks but No, Thanks!" I figured this was a cultural experience someone else might want to enjoy. No sense keeping all the fun to myself, right?
But then my friend came back with a request for us to host a course leader.
- "A young lady," she said.
- "Most likely 30 years old. Just like one of your girls," she said.
- "It's an opportunity to share your faith in Christ," she said.
So it was decided.
At the very last minute, the young lady we were to host became ill and couldn't travel. The organization tapped "Barbara" to take her place. The program was new to her. She only had four days to prepare. And she had never met the seventeen children that would be her charges for this trip halfway around the world.
But she had a passport and visa from a previous trip. And (we came to learn) Barbara is fearless!
Not gonna lie, we were all three a bit nervous at first. But we warmed up to one another quickly. Fortunately, Barbara speaks English well. And Frank's visit to China almost 30 years ago, gave us much to talk about. By the end of the first weekend, I knew Barbara and I would be friends.
She was unfamiliar with our faith and had never attended a church nor read a Bible. But being the fearless person she is and wanting to be gracious, she came right along with us.....to everything. She even accepted the invitation to join Frank and me for evening devotions and prayer.
We never pushed. We didn't have to. Christ makes room for Himself in every searching heart. We simply lived our normal lives. Invited her to join us when she wanted and made time for her to ask questions about it all.
The grand babies loved her immediately and she them. Madi summed up the situation first (hand on hip), "Noni, is Ms. Barbawah you new verwy bestest fwiend?" We all looked at one another with big eyes while stifling laughter, "Why yes, Madi. Ms. Barbawah is my new friend!"
Responsibilities kept Barbara occupied each day from 7:30AM until 5:30PM. After our dinner, she spent long hours on the phone with the parents in China, responding to questions from the students, or facilitating understanding for the host families. I marveled at her adeptness.
Because I was the transportation for Barbara, I spent the most time with her. We did indeed become friends and talked easily about so many different things. Culture. Weddings. Faith. Children. Shopping. Family. Food.
One of my favorite lines came when several host families gathered for a picnic. One of the "dads" was talking with Barbara. He learned that her parents are owners of a family restaurant they have managed for decades.
"What type of food do they serve?" he leaned in to be sure to catch her response.
Barbara hesitated for a split second then answered, "Chinese."
Everyone at their table burst out laughing! Can't make up those kind of cultural exchanges.
The richest memory I'll rehearse from our "visit to China" was when we all tried to say good-bye. Barbara and I both wept openly. Frank had to swipe at tears and wait for his voice to get stable. We hugged one another multiple times while whispering our farewells.
How is it that your heart can become so entangled with other people in such a short amount of time? Why even make the effort to connect with someone you may never see again? I guess the answer is this: you have to be open and you have to believe Every Connection Matters.
Many people live with closed hearts. They don't want to risk being hurt or misunderstood or offended or rejected. But my friend, the line from our childhood is still true..... Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Yes, it was awkward inviting a stranger to live with us for almost three weeks. Yes, there were odd moments when we didn't understand one another. Yes, it required time and energy during a month when both were in precious little supply.
But I'm so glad we chose to be open to this experience.
I will long remember Barbara's beautiful face, covered with tears as she leaned in one final time and whispered, "Thank you. I will remember you always."
Our trip to China was wonderful!
How about you? What was your favorite travel experience this summer? Take a moment to leave a comment and let's see where all we've been.
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